The Whole View, Season 3 Ep 08: (In)Fertility, IVF and Anxiety with Hayley Stayley

Welcome Haley Stayley to the Whole View! This week, Stacy and Haley discuss Haley’s story and experiences with Fertility, IVF and Anxiety in family planning. Hayley shares how her combination of lifestyle, therapy, and modern medicine allowed her to get her severe anxiety and panic attacked under control, and what role that played in her motherhood journey.

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Key Takeaways


  • Hayley is the creative force behind Primal Palate and has been interested in cooking for as long as she can remember. She has been a Paleo follower for over a decade and reimagines recipes as healthier versions of traditional preparations.
  • She’s struggled with anxiety and panic disorders for decades, taking many lifestyle, medical, and dietary changes to comfortably manage. As a result, she’s expanded her quest for health to explore mental health, better beauty, and raising a family.
  • When she’s not creating delicious recipes for Primal Palate or raising her daughter, Isla, she enjoys home renovation projects, gardening, and spending time with family.

Fertility, IVF and Anxiety

  • Stacy always feels uncomfortable talking about how her family started – by accident – because she knows how hard it is for so many. Plus, as a foster/adoptive mom, Stacy recognizes how many more definitions of motherhood there are. From her conversation with Hayley, she could tell that they all were on a path to add to her family, and she loved the journey.

Topics discussed:

  • “I had gone from just having anxiety, to having anxiety plus severe hypochondria because I had been diagnosed with so many illnesses. I didn’t feel safe in my own body, and the only way I felt remotely comfortable was at home with Bill or my mom. Anything else stressed my body out so severely that I just couldn’t function, and I hated for anyone to see me like that, so I just avoided everyone.” [Quote from Haley]
  • Hayley and her husband had unexplained fertility issues, meaning there was no reason the doctors could find that explained their trouble getting pregnant. They tried everything the doctors recommended to try and get pregnant naturally and eventually turned to IVF.
  • She took a whole-health approach, using both modern medicine and lifestyle changes to treat her anxiety. Hayley sought treatment for her TMJ to get her diet and adrenals under control. She started a new medication and started seeing a midwife. Within a year, her hormone levels were testing normal. She and her husband look into options for fertility and starting a family.
  • Finally, Hayley discusses the emotional toll of getting and being pregnant.

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